Traffic Jam Reflections….in the mirror
I’ve been thinking a little more about that unexpected Starbucks run-in last week—and honestly, it just made me really grateful.
It was nice seeing him again. For anyone wondering (or reading a little too closely), no—this isn’t one of those lingering feelings kind of things. He was my first real boyfriend back in high school, but even back then we both knew it wasn’t anything beyond friendship. We ended things super amicably and have stayed connected via Facebook and IG ever since we were sixteen. We just got along.
When we ran into each other, we talked like old friends do. He asked about Matt, told me how much he enjoys seeing our travel posts and race photos, and filled me in on his own life. He’s recently remarried—funny enough, I actually know his wife from junior college—and he seems really happy. It was one of those encounters that just leaves you feeling good. No drama. No weirdness. Just two people catching up and wishing each other well.
It’s actually coincidental because the same thing nearly happened for Matt in May when we encountered an ex of his at our nephew’s VPK graduation. They exchanged smiles and a brief hello as we were taking some pictures on the way out of the church. Later Matt said he wished he had been able to have a longer conversation with her after the graduation but everyone was on their way out.
It just makes me appreciate how refreshing it is to look back on the past and be able to smile about the people who played a role in the person you may be today or helped you along the way.
I guess what I’m getting at is this: I love how peaceful my relationships are with most of the men I’ve dated. I still have social media friendships with them and that does not bother Matt nor I.
Life’s messy enough without holding onto tension that doesn’t need to exist.
Anyway, that’s all. Just something I wanted to reflect on… and a reminder that not every blast from the past is a storm. Sometimes, it’s just a good little breeze.
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