It's Not Her Lyrics - It's Her Life

Ok guys, we're taking a detour from our scheduled topic for today to rant about something that continues to piss me off.... are you ready for it? We're about to talk about Taylor Swift and the Christian community taking issue with things that they once again, do not need to take issue with.

If you think the church’s problem with Taylor is about song lyrics, you’re not paying attention. The real offense? She’s living a life they can’t control — and doing it on her own terms.

It’s always fascinating to watch the internet twist itself into knots over Taylor Swift, not necessarily her music, her as a person. It's particularly interesting to watch this happen on the side that claims to follow Christ.

Since she was a child, Taylor writes about her life. She writes about love. She writes about heartbreak. You know… the same thing musicians have been doing for centuries. But when she does it, suddenly some corners of the Christian community decide it’s a moral emergency.

The double standard is glaring. But in case you haven't noticed it, these are just a few:
• Male artists can sing about sex, revenge, and sin without a whisper of protest.
• Entire genres celebrate violence, materialism, and exploitation without being branded as “dangerous.”
• Yet one woman pens her own lyrics about her own lived experiences, love and heartbreaks, and suddenly the Southern Baptists are ready to light the torches on their way home from Cracker Barrel.

This isn’t about theology. This is about discomfort with a woman telling her own story and people actually listening. It's about her level of influence. It’s about control disguised as "concern". And frankly, it’s about forgetting the very grace and humility that Christianity is meant to stand for.

Since this is my post, here's my opinion 😁 Most of this outrage has nothing to do with music. 

Taylor  is in her mid-30s, unmarried, and without children. She has chosen not to settle, not to bind herself to someone just for the sake of “keeping up with the timeline.” She has set a loud, visible example of a woman who refuses to enter into marriage out of pressure, convenience, or fear of being alone. 

In a culture — and yes, even in many churches — where women are still quietly told that their highest achievement is marriage and motherhood, this looks rebellious. It disrupts the narrative. Her life says, “I don't have to trade my peace, my purpose, or my autonomy for the sake of fitting into a box built for me.”

For those who grew up in environments where the pinnacle of a woman’s worth was her role as a wife and mother, watching someone opt out of that timeline can feel threatening.

It forces uncomfortable questions like: What if that’s not the only path? What if a woman can be complete without fulfilling that script? What if success could look like not rushing into marriage, building your own life first, and keeping your integrity intact?

Christians: Scripture is full of warnings about the words we speak and the way we speak them:

• “Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.” (Proverbs 18:21)
• “Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers” (Ephesians 4:29)
• “Thou shalt not go up and down as a talebearer among thy people” (Leviticus 19:16)

We are explicitly told that to smear someone’s name, to speak evil without cause, is not just gossip — it’s sin. And yet, in the name of “defending righteousness,” people will gladly tarnish a stranger’s Reputation over a lyric they don’t like or a life choice that doesn’t mirror their own. This applies to celebrities too....

Here’s what I’ve noticed: any time a Christian says how much they “hate” her, and I waste enough effort to ask why, I never get a tangible answer. What I hear instead is some recycled headline, a regurgitated talking point that sounds suspiciously like it was pulled straight from someone else’s opinion. Why? because, quite frankly, it’s easier to think as you’re told than it is to practice discernment — which, ironically, is something the Bible also calls us to do.

The same faith that calls us to be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry (James 1:19) has been twisted into a platform for fast judgments, loud accusations, and slow self-reflection.

Her music isn’t for everybody, and that’s fine. Taste in music is personal, and a preference for other artists is completely valid. But the issue here isn’t about musical taste. It’s that much of the Christian community’s outrage isn’t rooted in disliking her songs — it’s rooted in disliking her as a person. Taking SUCH issue with her, and not other individuals mirroring similar life choices. 

In closing, the unnecessary hatred toward this woman — who is literally just doing her job — has not gone unnoticed. An entire generation of young women have been watching. They have seen the way you speak about her. They have heard the tone in your voice. And whether you realize it or not, a lasting impression has been made.

You’ve shown them that even if a woman is wildly successful, autonomous, and unapologetically herself, they may too, face harsh criticism and judgment — not because of what she’s done, but because of who she refuses to become for your approval. 

And in doing so, you haven’t defended righteousness… you’ve modeled pettiness, hypocrisy, and the very judgment Jesus warned us against.

....Glad that's off my chest now lol hope you all enjoyed reading that as much as I loved letting it out of my heart. Continue this conversation in the comments or via email ;)

You've heard of the "Hot Girl Walk", well, here is the "Tired Woman Walk". Today was a rest day from marathon training and I enjoyed a lovely walk at sunrise before an insane day of meetings began.

Tomorrow we will talk body imagine and have some real girl talk.

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